We never know when life is going to throw us a curve! Little did I know in November 2013 that I would be speaking at the Missouri Hospital Association Conference one week and be in the hospital the next. I was diagnosed with the autoimmune disease Polymyositis and have been fighting it for over a year. It is a rare disease that attacks the muscles and I was being treated locally with little progress. In March I luckily got an appointment at Mayo Clinic in Minnesota to see a Rheumatologist who specializes in this type of disease and he started me on a treatment that has been nothing short of miraculous! After being on his treatment only a week and a half I was able to drive and go up and down stairs; something I hadn’t been able to do for months. I am almost done with the treatment and while I still have some flexibility to regain, I have my life back!
The last 2 years have been exhausting, challenging and frustrating as we also sold our home in the middle of all this; I signed the closing papers on our home while lying in a hospital bed. However our new home was being renovated so we lived in three different temporary housing situations until the end of March. Whew!! At the same time I know there have been important life lessons learned and many blessings through my experiences and am determined to get back to speaking, life coaching, and motivating others. I finally feel good enough to resume my business activities and have new insights and amazing stories of inspiration and coping to share with my newsletter subscribers and clients.
When your life takes a hit, you have choices to make. You can choose to ignore it, you can choose to whine about it and live in fear of the next big thing that happens, or you can handle it to the best of your ability with courage, creativity, responsibility, and the knowledge that you will not give up! Help yourself and those around you by implementing these 5 important skills when stuff happens.
1. Be kind to yourself.
This is no time for perfectionism. Be more effective, stress less, and conserve energy by adjusting your expectations of yourself. Sure you want to do your best but our ‘best’ varies with our emotional, mental and physical state.
2. Be mindful of your self-talk.
The inner dialogue and daily messages you send yourself can be your worst enemy. Begin by monitoring the voice in your brain and replace self inflicted criticism with acceptance. When you control your mind you take control of your life.
3. Tune out and turn off. Too much media focuses on repeating the problems and tragedies in the world. You can’t solve the problems of the world and adding them to your personal concerns can be overwhelming. Allow yourself some quiet time to rejuvenate and restore balance.
4. Take small steps.
Focus on what you can do right now to better your situation instead of the enormity of the problem. List 5 things you can do today that will bring about a positive change and do them. Accomplishments are contagious and small action steps lead to success!
5. Avoid being a Drama Queen or King.
It looks good on t-shirts, pillows and media outlets; it doesn’t play well in real life. Give up the reality show mentality and realize that every incident in your life is not an emergency unless you choose to make it so.
QUOTE OF THE MONTH
“We don’t get to choose the things that happen to us in life. What we can choose is how to react to them, how we deal with them, and how we move on.”